Photos by Ray Galloway
Fab Friday, Beauties!
We made it to the end of the week and I’m glad about it.
When I started this blog last summer (August 2018), I promised I would bring my authentic self to everything I share here. So, let me ask you guys this: Have you outgrown any of your friendships? If so, how do/have you handled it?
The great American poet Maya Angelou once said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” This goes both ways — we remember how good people make us feel and we also remember how bad people make us feel.
No friendship is without its hiccups and we all go through things with the people who are closest to us. But there is a difference when you find yourself constantly puzzled by behaviors, unspoken ‘vibes’ and an overall energy that frustrates you more than anything.
I’m struggling with a similar scenario in some of my friendships and I’ve been praying about it. The thing is, I know what I have to do, but I’ve been reluctant to do it. It’s a little bit of fear and not wanting to confront situations head on. I’m not a confrontational person.
In one of my Instagram posts, I talked about the importance of having peace in my life. After years of being in inner turmoil due to my own poor decisions or not having the courage to stand up for myself in ways I should have, over the last two years, I’ve worked hard to achieve peace in my life. Some of that work has been to remove myself from people and situations I deemed vexing and toxic.
So, here I am being faced with yet another decision to make. Sometimes people outgrow their friendships and this does not mean either parties involved in the friendship are not good people. Not at all. It may just mean these people are not good for each other. The challenge then is to come to terms with this and resolve it. Depending on the toxicity of the situation, resolution could come in the form of parting ways.
I know the toxicity of the situations at hand and have to make some changes.
How do you guys handle friendships you’ve outgrown or friendships that have become toxic? Let me know in the comments below.
The Fashions
I think this is a great look for the weekend. It’s also a chic look you can wear for Casual Fridays at the office and then meet up for Happy Hour at your favorite after-work spot.
There’s nothing like a pair of jeans, a great tee and some flats. Up the fashion quotient by adding a blazer, like I did here, and step out looking fresh and feeling confident on Fridays, or any day of the week. You can dress this look down a bit by removing the blazer. And speaking of blazers, you’ll definitely be seeing more of this one on the blog!
I love these shoes! I got them here on St. Croix at Sampson House in Christiansted. It’s such a great, fun color and just can really make any outfit pop.
Style Deets
Tee & shoes: Sampson House, St. Croix, USVI
Blazer: K-Mart West, St. Croix, USVI
Jeans: Somewhere in NYC
Clutch: Sweet Magnolia Fashion Boutique (@sweetmagnoliavi)
